I have to say, I'm grateful for the friends I have in this world whether I've met you in the flesh, haven't seen you for years or have only enjoyed conversations on Facebook. It's funny that people find that odd or impersonal... I remember as a child having pen pals that I corresponded with at least monthly... some more some less... that I never met in person. No one found that odd, and yet we shared quite a bit about our feelings, events in our lives, interests etc... and they had my address! I value all friendships and acquaintances regardless of their genesis.
Which is why I definitely take notice of friends who bail on me on Facebook. Ultimately, the world still spins and life goes on... I just don't like writing people off. I do notice from time to time that people who I know don't agree with my thoughts, rants, politics or taste in music just up and jump ship. Not a word. I truly wish there would be a brief exchange first... let me know how I've offended and we can talk about it. I'm very fervent in my beliefs, but I'm always open to facts, figures, historical data and rational thought... I just don't like uninformed opinion passed off as fact. That's the only time I really get annoyed with someone.
And so... I gain a friend, I lose a friend... but in the end the choice is always theirs. I have many friends who don't agree with me and I would never turn my back on them solely for that reason... Facebook friend or otherwise. In fact, I've never blocked, unfriended or otherwise ostracized anyone who hasn't done something far worse... like lie, cheat, steal or defame my character... and I think even that list is maybe one or two people long.
So as the year comes to an end, I won't be performing any mass deletions... I won't be slicing and dicing based on political views or clothing choices... I'll just wish everyone who's stuck around happy holidays and share my wish for their happiness. Because at the end of the day, that's what my rants are about...
I just want everyone to have a chance to be happy... to chase their dreams, be successful, be respected for who they are, be treated equally and as humans not stereotypes, mistakes, or sinners. I want everyone to have the opportunity to live instead of just exist, to know the joy of being able to take a breath at the end of the month... to finally have peace without a ten ton weight on their chest because they don't know if they'll make ends meet. To not be paralyzed by the fear of hunger, eviction, homelessness, or unemployment. To be able to realize their full potential, and in turn pay it forward.
I know I want too much... and that by my age cynicism should have already cured me of this sort of hope. But for some reason I've come through the other side still thinking that it can happen... but realizing it going to be a dirty, hard-fought, nasty and at times horrific battle to get there. And so I hold my positions ferociously... and unless I'm given facts or good reason, I don't back down. I'm sorry that it has cost friends, but there are things larger that my personal life that I have to be true to.
I may achieve nothing, I may not so much as make a dent in the armor of my opponents... and in the end my life may truly be 'a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.'. But I can not let that be for a lack of trying.